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like a runaway freight train

30 Friday Sep 2011

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love is a runaway freight train gaining momentum as it speeds down the tracks. geton board or get out of the way!

love is also a luxury, many of us get by with the love of our children, maybe our friends and pets. to love a partner and have that love accepted and returned, is a luxury

i want in my life

OKC, the loneliest place to be

30 Friday Sep 2011

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learning the pain

hope, willingness, expectation, hope, the ultimate seducer

disappointment harvests hope, the reaper

let’s let the dog decide

29 Thursday Sep 2011

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that girl has such a plaintive look. sitting on your lap, she looking at me, you looking at her.

let’s let her decide if i’m scary or loving, a good woman, worth keeping around to scratch behind both your ears, between your fore legs.

Rx: apply a warm cat and call me in the morning

29 Thursday Sep 2011

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some nights when my kids were young i was so tired and played out that when it felt like i hit bottom i would just tuck myself in and remember that every day you get another chance to start over and sometimes it’s best just to shut it down for the night. i’ve had 2-3 cats and dogs most of my adult life. at those times gus would fill the ‘v’ of my lap and everything else would melt away. i learned to relax and seep into the sofa when i laid down and gus would snuggle in. the sense of deep relaxation is what i use now to focus on. works for me!

duplicitous desire

29 Thursday Sep 2011

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desire is duplicitous

desire opens

the door to hope

disappointment follows

close at hand

gill slits

29 Thursday Sep 2011

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he is watery

rides the waves, hides in the curl

he pounds his way ahead of the wave to master it and stay in front

looks in his element

maybe he has gill slits

if i look, maybe i can find them

why? who?

21 Wednesday Sep 2011

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why am i drawn to the men that i am? what am i looking for? a safe harbor? nurturing? protective? loving?

most recently a dog with the most plaintive look, she sits on her man’s lap and he has eyes only for her. he is big, burly, looks like his arms could envelop me. i’d like that. he is a bit strange, mournful/soulful.

he looks at me and holds my gaze, then looks away.

gone.

chemistry

21 Wednesday Sep 2011

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what we call chemistry when looking to meet that someone special, our soulmate, is really a function of evolution. it’s our gonads talking, wanting to fulfil the urge to keep the species going with improvements. it’s our gonads trying to override our brains and rule our hearts.

i used to call it magic. a feeling, illusive and indefinable, you know it if you feel it. it’s the endorphins kicking in.

laying back in the weeds

18 Sunday Sep 2011

Posted by heartbeatwonderings in memories, still fishing

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trying to be patient, i’m not good at it, at least not yet. by nature i am a pursuer, a hunter. the men i’ve been closest to i have pursued. one tells me i was the ‘love of his life’ the other married me over the other, he said she ‘didn’t know how to fish.’

yes, i do know how to fish. used to be i was a good little fisherperson. once while salmon fishing in lake erie with a fiberglass rod i had a hit. i set the hook and the fish took out line, lots of it, finally snapped the pole near the handle, musta been a fine fish. there are stories my out-laws tell and so do i. my first winter visit to minnesota i bought whilte sorel boots, my white go-go boots with a fur collar. had my blue ESM parka, i was the blue blimp (at 120lbs.) also had down mitts to match from a frostline kit. fished in an ice house for the first time. amazed at how bright it could be under the water while sitting in the dark, glowing from below. fished outside the fish house with a drop line, new to me. had a hit, set the hook and what next, no reel and unused to wrapping the line on the handle i kept tension by running away from the hole, landed the fish. my outlaws referred to that as trolling.

fished in canada on lake nipissing, camp henry. all the family was there. i used a pikey lure and i caught fish hand over fist when no one else did. also a bat in the cabin caught in a fishing net by my bro. t and i went out with my dad, always an adventure. he had a past history of snagging a fishing companions child with a fish hook while casting. he did not put bait on a hook or take fish off. dad needed a lot of taking care of. t and i were willing. we were caught off guard when the weather changed quickly and severely. no chance to get back to camp. t had lots of boat and lake experience. he pulled into a somewhat protected area on a small island and landed us and secured the boat. all in raingear with no cover and all my dad wanted to do in the downpour was light a cigarette. wondering if we were in danger, whether the other boat got back safely and would they be worried about us. trying to light the damned cigarette and keeping it lit. we all shared it under our billed hoods. after maybe an hour the front passed and we fished our way back to camp.

less is more

14 Wednesday Sep 2011

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so here’s what i’ve learned so far

–i don’t get the cadence, the pace at which these things progress.

–when you start chatting through emails with a man who interests you stay at 1 to 1. previously i would send or reply to an email and if i had an afterthought or three, continue the train of thought. i’m told that’s wrong as far as internet exchanges are concerned. intrusive is the word my daughter used if i remember correctly.

–apparently i depend on the feedback of face to face interaction where you know if the other person gets it or is bored. if its their turn to speak or yours, if you are talking over them or vice versa. voice also gives you cues that the email intercourse lacks.

–i’m not very good at internet-not-yet-dating. maybe i’m trainable, we’ll see. i do not like scaring away men who interest me, Sam I am!

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